In a society which does not yet fully accept persons with disability among its so-called respectable members, she has walked an extra mile to show to the world around her that disability is certainly not the ultimate end of hope. She has shocked her parents, siblings, relatives and friends by consciously choosing to walk a path, not so frequently taken by people in the world, despite the knowledge that she would have to overcome some of the unforeseen challenges on the way.
Marriage is the biggest decision in life. All our successes and failures, happiness and sadness, or prosperity and disharmony all depend on whom we choose to share our life with. I know it requires a lot of sacrifices, compromises and understanding. If you fail to create enough space for your partner to fit comfortably in your life, life will become miserable for both you and your partner and you won’t be able to continue your life together. Then who will be the ultimate losers? Your innocent children who are often compelled to live with a single parent or relatives as a result of dysfunctional marriages. That’s why, people say marriage is a sacred affair. One needs to have extraordinary courage, commitment and confidence to dedicate your life to somebody whose mind you can never read until it’s too late. Because of this, all parents are always conscious about what kind of persons their sons or daughters are messing up with. It’s the dream of every parent to see their daughters and sons with the best partner in their life, who is disciplined, smart, abled and of course, who has a decent job or wealth. In such a society that expects its members to always opt for the best, the decision to marry somebody with disability is something beyond people can hardly imagine.
I am sure it might have taken a while for my wife to decide, as I know that it’s not an easy decision to make. It was the decision that could significantly impact her life and that of her family. She can see, she can walk and she is independent, but I am blind and need assistance more than those who have eyesight. She could have easily married a better guy but ultimately she chose to accept me into her life, although she wasn’t sure about the future we were heading to. I was still a student at the university and my future still remained vague. Yet, she was confident that there will always be light at the end of a tunnel. We got engaged in 2003 when I was studying 2nd year undergraduate degree and subsequently started living together happily. Although it was a hasty decision, at least for me, she never made me regret it. To me, she is the bravest woman, at least at that moment when she decided to marry me, against the expectations of the society she was brought up in. Her parents had no objection to her decision though.
Today, she is happy that we are well settled with kids and life has been fair to both of us. She has realized that life with me has not been as worse as what she had thought in her childhood. It’s a traditional belief that for a blind person, you need to do everything starting from cooking, washing, cleaning, clothing or eating, all which we can actually do easily ourselves. The only thing we can’t do independently is to walk to new places or go for shopping. It’s obvious that anybody who has been never with a blind would think he or she would have to live a life of a full-time servant if they marry a blind person. So, I should say, my wife is a person who has bravely pushed aside all those common beliefs and dared to leave everything behind to live with me for the rest of her life. Likewise, I have a few visually impaired friends who also have married sighted women, and I equally value them for their bold decisions, no matter for what reason they chose to live with somebody who cannot physically see them.
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